Tired of holding it all together, of living in survival mode?
From the outside your life looks “fine”, you’re successful, you get things done, you’re the one everyone else can rely on…but inside you feel exhausted, on auto-pilot and unsure of who you are anymore.
You might feel behind where you thought you’d be, or achieving milestones doesn’t feel how you thought it would. You may be stuck in patterns you can’t seem to shift, or carrying the weight of everyone else’s needs while yours go unmet.
Hi, I’m Minnie…
I’m an integrative counsellor based in the UK, working with women as they navigate decades which are often full of demands, expectations and identity shifts!
My own experience of living in survival mode and having burnout (ahem…twice!) inspires my work. Wearing busyness like a badge of honour, self-worth being dependent on how much you achieve or how ‘perfectly’ it’s done, rest needing to be ‘earnt’…I’ve been there.
I’m not a mother myself, but I work with a lot of mums as they navigate fertility, pregnancy, postpartum and motherhood. Supporting mothers is a passion of mine as a former nanny, primary school teacher and aunty. I’ve undertaken specialist training in perinatal psychotherapy as well as pregnancy and baby loss.
You don’t have to be a mum to work with me - a lot of the challenges and expectations we carry as women during these decades are universal…pressure to be everything for everyone, to not need any help, to push through and this has a cost - burnout, loosing yourself, feeling overwhelmed, anxious, depressed, stuck. I can help you explore all of this and find a way forward that is more aligned with who you want to be!
A safe and confidential space, where I will listen without judgement. By exploring your thoughts, feelings and options you will gain better understanding of yourself, new perspectives, develop strategies to better cope or work towards goals, and be able to make informed decisions that are more in line with your authentic self!
“Therapy with me is warm, relaxed, and gently challenging. We go at your pace, making sense of what’s going on beneath the surface, so real change becomes possible. So that you can start making choices that actually feel right for you.”
This is an alternative to traditional counselling in a room or online. Whilst I aim to foster a relaxed feel in all my sessions, walking side by side (and the lack of eye contact that comes with that) along with the regulating effects of movement and nature can help you to access and process thoughts and emotions that may feel stuck.
Why women lose themselves: the hidden cost of people-pleasing, perfectionism and burnout…
Sessions:
60 minutes | £60 | Weekly or fortnightly | Online or Walk + Talk (Oxfordshire)
I recommend we start weekly if time and financial commitments allow as this helps the therapeutic relationship to form and for us to keep the momentum going, however fortnightly sessions can be just as effective.
Sessions are open-ended which means you can have as many as you need, your slot is held for you for the duration. If after a certain amount of work has been completed you wish to pause, space-out or return to sessions at any point there is the option for existing/returning clients to book ad-hoc or check-in sessions (60 or 90 minutes) as and when needed.
I regularly work with…
Anxiety
Depression
Stress + burnout
Perinatal mental health
Birth trauma
Perfectionism
People pleasing
Mother-daughter relationship
Low self-esteem + confidence
Loss of identity + purpose
Relationships/dating
Fertility + pregnancy
Miscarriage, stillbirth + baby loss
Bereavement
Childfree by choice
Developmental (childhood) trauma
Adult adoptees
Perimenopause + menopause
Life transitions
If you are currently in a domestic abuse setting I recommend that you reach out to specialist organisations during this time as they are in a better position to be able to offer you the wide ranging support available to you as you take this brave step forward - please see signposting.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Therapy is a safe and confidential space, where I will listen without judgement.
By exploring your thoughts, feelings and options you will gain better understanding of yourself, new perspectives, develop strategies to better cope or work towards goals, and be able to make informed decisions that are more in line with your authentic self!
Counselling can be helpful if you feel unable to share difficult feelings or strong emotions with loved ones, either through fear of upsetting them or their attempts, through the best intentions, to ‘fix’ things for you. Sometimes you need the space to be heard and find your own solutions, however long that takes. I will meet you where you are at, not trying to change you or your situation, and offer the distance and perspective you may be needing.
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Sessions are 60 minutes and cost £60. This is the same for online or walk + talk therapy (parking charges may apply at locations).
I have a couple of concessionary slots (subject to availability) to help make therapy more accessible for those on low income, please feel free to ask about these.
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I offer online therapy for anyone in the UK - this takes places at the same time each week/fortnight for as long as you need. Sessions take place via Teams (you do not need an account). You'll receive a reminder with the video link to join before each session.
Walk + talk therapy sessions take place at a select number of locations in North Oxfordshire.
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Sessions take place at the same time each week or fortnight, helping create consistency and a steady space for the work we do - this slot is yours for as long as you need it.
Some people have short-term therapy (6-12 sessions) which is suitable for working on 1 or 2 issues or immediate coping skills, whilst others prefer longer-term support (months to years), which is great for deeper work. I do regular reviews and check-ins during our time together.
I offer the option for booking ad-hoc or one off check-in sessions (60 or 90 minutes) for returning clients, we will discuss suitability for this which can form a great part of your ongoing self-care.
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I have an Advanced Diploma in Integrative Counselling along with additional specialist training in trauma, bereavement, pregnancy and baby loss, and perinatal psychotherapy.
I am a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).
I am fully insured, DBS checked, and attend regular supervision and CPD.
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I work Tuesdays, Wednesdays + Thursdays between 9.30am-6.30pm.
